Love, Sex and Rock and Roll- A response to David Brooks 10.1.2007
After reading his column entitled, The New Lone Rangers, in Tuesday’s New York Times, I was left in the usual befuddled confused state, post a Brook’s opinion. That is, I was not completely clear as to either his point or his point of view… My antennae went up as he addressed or seemed to address uh, pop music, adolescence, extended adolescence, the horrors of individualism and American youth, or was it girls or women and their abhorrent popular music drive or its appeal and all as a result of divorce and hooking up? Hadn’t the 1950’s seen Elvis Presley and “sexualized” rhythms as a macho mask for loneliness and sexual aggression? And isn’t it in fact the Clint Eastwood vision of individualism to which Mr. Brooks refers that is the very essence of the conservative mindset which so characterizes the current values of American life in which “divorce and hooking up” continues unabated? Finally, My anxiety peaked as I sensed he blamed the victims of his piece, the young female subjects, for their own status as “foul mouthed Lone Rangers.”
It is refreshing to read that David Brooks recognizes the failures of the Eastwood rugged individualism ideal and its possible connection to the “Lone Ranger” found in American social mythology. Refreshing, because it is the political compatriots of Mr. Brooks who have done the most to advance the romantic notions of this myth as well as the Horatio Alger mythologies of early American capitalism. Neither do the “family values” nor religion, which Mr. Brooks’ wing of politics’ espouses, deter divorce or casual sex that he suggests result in the ‘hard-bitten’ character of the young female rock and rollers of his editorial.
In fact, “divorce and hooking up” are hardly the major problems of the youth today. Indeed alienation is rampant, mental illness is on the rise, and it is wholesale fear on the part of the young regarding their future that appears to be the pervasive reality amongst those 13-30. The ability to earn a living and raise a family within a stable and secure political and economic environment among other quite reasonable anxieties is rampant among today’s young and has resulted in ever-increasing social fragmentation. Unfortunately, Mr. Brooks insists on seeing the behavioral byproducts of a changing and increasingly insecure age as moral failings as opposed to a reflection of genuine social and governmental failures to effectively accept or share responsibilities.
It is not as Mr. Brooks suggests, the cell phone or facebook, which is increasing the ‘Lone Ranger’ mentality amongst young women. Rather, these are instruments of a new age and economy to which many individuals have already been sacrificed and abandoned. So as Mr. Brooks suggests, the “hard boiled, foul mouthed, emotionally self sufficient and unforgiving woman… who has had the sentimentality beaten out of her and who have no time for romance or etiquette…disgusted by male idiots …” is far from a product of cold eyed age of divorce and hookups… or “free floating anger… the climate of the decade.” Far from “knowing exactly what they want and being solely inner directed,” these women unfortunately are all about protecting themselves from the reality around them as opposed to being future oriented, concerned with productivity and creativity.
These young women are all too aware of their likely future reality. Most Americans, young and old, male and female, find themselves slogging away in daily lives, which are characterized by a lack communal values, responsibility and empathy, and in which direction and any spark of creativity is completely lacking and not encouraged. Social and worker’s movements have been systematically upbraided and shorn of legitimacy. Communal health, mental and otherwise, is almost non- existent. The lack of a citizenship ethic combined with fear has landed the “youthful” women to whom Mr. Brooks refers from the ages of 13 -30, alone and often quite desperate.
It is during these very years in which dreams are born and developed and in which the “children” and specifically women fearing failure, cling to adolescence, desperately trying to bond through music and sex –(at least according to Mr., Brooks) and it would appear unsuccessfully, before settling. Settling into another reality in which they fear they will find many of their dreams destroyed or unfulfilled as many witnessed in their parents generation. The lack of institutional support services, economically, medically and legally, made their mother’s experiences difficult and create a high degree of trepidation in younger women especially regarding marriage and motherhood. Rather than being merely ‘hard-bitten’ females incapable of intimacy, which David Brooks characterizes in his piece as angry young women; it is more realistically a thin veil of insecurity and dread which these women harbor about their future.
Women who have achieved higher and higher levels of education are looking for satisfying and paid work experiences similar to that of their male equals. They are looking for spouses with secure employment futures and ultimately will look for adequate and affordable childcare. Choices regarding work and family, free time, education, health and mental health care are challenges still harder to find as many of these “inner directed” women watch and wade into responsibilities for aging parents for whom medicine, assistance and savings are not adequate. Reasonable avenues to communicate with a government increasingly unresponsive to its citizens combine to create the prolonged adolescence, which David Brooks decries.
Finally, time and willingness for civic engagement and voluntarism and other expressions of genuine democratic give and take has diminished with the rise of the two-pay check family and a lack of government responsiveness. It appears that both the working family and the overworked family, and poor government responsiveness actually create cynical expectations and dismal prospects for an ideal adulthood.
Family and religion are changing. Questions regarding government institutions and their ability to honor core American values such as life liberty and the pursuit of happiness. need to be openly discussed. We are experiencing one of the most profound periods of communal re-adjustments, which our country has endured. Serious and sober discussions about the role and responsibilities of government to its citizens in our society are long overdue. Rather than the result of a “cold eyed age of divorce and hookups,” the “angry … self-absorbed young women and their provocative pop music” is a product of much more. And perhaps a clearer and more specific discussion of those issues ought to be the subject of more pundit columns and investigations.
As usual I found that Mr. Brooks’ missed the opportunity to reflect, ruminate and investigate more deeply on the issues that might shed some true light on the realities of America’s young women and our youth in general.